How to Set Goals Which Really Mean Something
I’ve wasted time year after year setting goals that I felt were expected of me. But thanks to The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte, I now set goals with soul. Let me tell you more.
How to Set Goals
Which Actually Mean Something
This article was originally published on December 2016 and updated and republished October 2017.
The Book I’d Been Waiting For
Danielle LaPorte had been on my radar for about a year before I finally got around to reading The Desire Map. Around 8 months before this, I found myself at a low motivational point in my business. I just couldn’t see the path ahead of me.
Some of the passion I had previously felt for The Productivity Princess had been replaced with a negative imbalance in the work I was doing for my clients. This would often leave me without the energy or ability to focus on my own business. I was drained, unmotivated and bored.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I completely understand that I am a service-based business, and I love my clients very much. But as the direction of my business changed I realised that some of my clients no longer fit with my dreams and goals. I was serving the wrong people and it was keeping me stuck.
Identifying the Problem
It took me a long time to realise that it wasn’t my business that was a problem, but instead the type of clients I was working with. My heart sang when I helped creative entrepreneurs to become more productive. When I was able to help them get out of being stuck and overwhelmed. These were the people I should be supporting and it was time to make some changes.
The first Danielle LaPorte book I read was The Fire Starter Sessions. Something happened to me reading this book, that I have never experienced before. Page after page of ‘Aha’ moments. It was as though she was talking just to me. I took a couple of well needed days off from work to recharge my soul, mind and body, and I continued to read.
Once I finished the book, I felt more energised and motivated than I had for months. I started to make some changes and gradually said goodbye to some of my clients to make way for my own business growth. This was really hard to do and took much longer than it should of, but still, I got there eventually. Once I did, I was instantly aware that I had made the right choice.
The New Year Goal Setting Bandwagon
Now, fast forward to the end of 2016, and the start of the whole goal setting craziness. It’s everywhere! all over social media, in Facebook groups, and in my email inbox in some form at least once a day.
It’s so easy to get caught up in all of the excitement and put way too much pressure on ourselves during this time. I know goals are important, and I certainly wasn’t going to enter the New Year with no idea of what I wanted to achieve. But each year prior to this, my goal setting had just felt like a great big to-do list of uninspiring actions which would later to be used as a stick to beat myself with when I didn’t achieve them. I didn’t want this to happen again this year, and I needed some guidance.
In November, I had already chosen to use Lisa Jacobs Your Best Year 2017 workbook. I’ve dipped in and out of it for a few weeks and I love the book, but something was still not quite right. It was nothing to do with the workbook as it has every prompt I need to review my previous year and set goals for 2017. The issue was the clinical to-do list way I was completing it.
The Desire Map
Then I remembered something. During the year I had been very kindly gifted The Desire Map from my friend. I had not yet found the time to read it and had actually forgotten all about it until now. The Desire Map is all about creating goals with soul. Bingo! Just what I was looking for.
The Desire Map is split into two books, with part one being the theory and part two being the workbook. Something I instantly loved about this book when only a few pages into reading, was that Danielle creates her own Desire Map twice a year. I love this, as I’ve always felt that setting goals once a year just isn’t enough.
The problem with the whole New Year goal setting bandwagon is:
- We do it because everyone else is
- And because of this, we sometimes don’t give goal setting the care and attention it really needs
- We start the year with a mammoth to-do list of what feels like a set of unachievable goals which is a really daunting way to start the New Year
And these are the reasons why many business owners crash and burn in January. We start week 1 of the year raring to go but very quickly feel overwhelmed, uninspired and start heading for the first burnout of the year!
This Book Came Into my Life for a Reason
Don’t you just love it when you read something at just the right time in your life?
For the first 3 years of my business, goals had all been to do with numbers. Such as X amount of sign ups to my list, X number of clients, X amount of programme sales, X increase in social media followers, not to mention financial goals, life goals, fitness goals and spiritual goals. Wow! It’s no wonder we find goal setting tough and overwhelming.
I was always focusing on the numbers as a measurement of my success. But does it really mean I am successful if I sell 10 programmes in a week or hit 1000 facebook followers? Well, yes and no. Of course, the numbers indicate growth. But what about how it makes me feel?
Something this book did, that nothing else I have ever read before has done, was to make me realise that the numbers were nothing without feelings. The most important thing for each goal wasn’t the number itself but how each of these metrics made me feel. This really does twist goal setting on its head. And boy did I need it.
It was time to get away from the clinical and analytical and address how my business goals, growth and feelings would mesh together instead. My definition of success needed an overhaul. And this year, I have decided that the journey is just as important as the result.
“When we make feeling good a priority, everything changes” Danielle LaPorte
I won’t spoil the rest of the book for you. Instead, I just wanted to share with you what reading The Desire Map has done for me, as it may be just what you are looking for.
If the clinical and analytical feelings you get from goal setting are not floating your boat, then it’s time to take a look at setting goals with soul.
You can find out more about Danielle LaPorte and The Desire Map >>here<<
Have a super productivity day.
How do you plan to set your New Year goals this time around?
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